We’re always hearing that we could be having better sex, a better orgasm, or a better relationship. But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist, to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions will remain anonymous. Please send your sex and relationship inquiries to tips@bustle.com. Now, onto today's topic: the best exhibitionist sex positions for an exciting view.
Q: “My new guy is an incredibly visual person. He really likes being able to see everything that’s going on when we’re hooking up. For example, he’s said he doesn’t like Missionary since he can’t see anything. I’ve never had a partner who is so into that, but I’m enjoying myself too. We just started having sex, and I’d like surprise him with some positions that would give him a really hot view. Any ideas for positions he would enjoy?”
A: Thanks for the question! Sex can be a lot of fun to watch, even if you’re not a super visual person. There are definitely plenty of hot sex positions that can create amazing views. Here are eight!
Cowgirl
The Basics: Have your partner lay flat on their back. Straddle them with one leg on either side of their body. Sit straight up.
Why It’s Hot: If you sit up, your partner gets an incredible view of your breasts and torso. You can caress your breasts or pinch your nipples. Or you can stroke your clitoris. Your partner will love watching you touch yourself, and you’ll get that important clitoral stimulation most women need to reach orgasm.
Reverse Cowgirl
The Basics: This position is almost identical to Cowgirl, except you’ll be staring at your partner’s feet instead of their head. Straddle their torso, then lean forward and put your hands forward in front of you to brace your weight.
Why It’s Hot: Reverse Cowgirl is one of the hottest set positions ever. Your partner gets an incredible view of your butt. If you lean forward and go slow, they’ll also be able to watch their penis or dildo as it slides in and out of you. Try switching back and forth from Cowgirl to Reverse Cowgirl for a mind-boggling display of hot views.
The Crabwalk Cowgirl
The Basics: This is a variation of Cowgirl, but it deserves its own mention when it comes to good views. From standard Cowgirl, lean back. Place your hands behind your body, and use them to hold up your weight. Plant your feet flat on the bed, and scoot them forward so they’re at the sides of your partner’s waist. You’ll be essentially in a crabwalk position.
Why It’s Hot: Leaning back and opening up your legs gives your partner a jaw-dropping view of their penis or dildo moving in and out of you. Of course, a nice view of your breasts doesn’t hurt either.
Face Sit
The Basics: This is hands-down the hottest oral sex position possible. Have your partner lay flat on their back. Straddle their face, with one leg on either side of their head. Have them perform oral on you.
Why It’s Hot: It’s not possible to get a better view than this. Your partner will love the view, and you’ll love the undivided attention.
Doggystyle
The Basics: Get on your hands and knees. Have your partner kneel behind you and enter you from behind.
Why It’s Hot: Doggystylis on just about every list of sexiest positions. This position is particularly great for ass-loving partners, since they’ll get an up close and personal view. You can also try getting down on your elbows to intensify the view even more.
Lying Doggy
The Basics: This position is easy to transition to from regular Doggystyle. Slowly start to lower yourself down onto your belly. Have your partner follow along, staying in you. You should eventually get flat on your stomach. Your partner should be straddling you, sitting upright.
Why It’s Hot: This is another position that’s all about the ass. Your partner can play with your butt during vaginal intercourse, or you can try having anal sex. Try arching your hips to make your butt look even more tantalizing. Or put a pillow under your hips for a better angle.
The Drape, Handjob Edition
The Basics: This is a great position for manual stimulation. Lie on the edge of the bed, with you legs draped over the edge. Have your partner sit or kneel between your legs and use their hands on you. They can use both hands externally, or one hand internally and one externally.
Why It’s Hot: This position frees your partner up to use one or both hands on you. They can explore all of the folds of your labia, or pull them apart for an even better view. You get to relax and soak up all of the focused attention.
Hanging Lotus
The Basics: Have your partner sit on the edge of the bed, with their legs hanging over the edge and their feet flat on the ground. Sit on top of their lap, facing them. Wrap your legs around their back.
Why It’s Hot: In this position, you can slowly pull your body further away from your partner’s, then slide back towards them. You both get a great view of your partner sliding in and out of you.
Have fun!
