It's a common misconception that having bipolar disorder means you're upset in one moment and happy in the next, but the reality is far more nuanced. "In order to meet criteria for the diagnosis of bipolar I or bipolar II disorder, one must have distinct major depressive episodes and manic/hypomanic episodes," says Dr. William. "However, each of these episodes must last for many days or even multiple weeks in order for them to be in line with this diagnosis. It is quite uncommon and atypical for a person to experience both of these episodes in the same week, let alone the same day."

Manic episodes are often characterized as "highs," with people staying up all hours, experiencing boundless energy and creativity. "It is true that one can experience an elevated mood during a manic or hypomanic episode, which can feel pleasant," says Dr. William. "However, they may instead experience irritability, inflated self-importance, excessive extroversion, and exaggerated behaviors, none of which are necessarily enjoyed or desired emotions or behaviors."

Not every emotion that someone with bipolar disorder goes through is irrational or unwarranted. "In the same way that a diabetic person may have an earache that has nothing to do with their disorder, a person with bipolar disorder does not always experience moods due to their disorder," says Dr. William. "Everyone has their good and bad moments or days. If a person in your life has bipolar disorder and they seem down, angry, or upset, start by asking questions and showing concern, rather than assuming what may be causing their upset."

Not everyone with bipolar disorder will have had a manic episode. "Some people may simply experience cycles of low mood and even mood," psychiatrist Dr. Alex Dimitriu, MD, tells Bustle. "Others may experience periods of increased irritability and productivity — but never the happy high we all associate with bipolar."

Unfortunately, it's common for bipolar patients to spend way more time being in a depressed, low state than in mania. "Bipolar tends not to be a fair disease, and while the highs can be nice, the lows are awful, and often occur far longer and more often," says Dr. Dimitriu.

Bipolar disorder can be treated. "A combination of psychotherapy, psychoeducation, and medication has been found to be highly effective in treating symptoms of bipolar disorder," says Dr. William. "Medication can include mood stabilizers, antidepressants, and/or antipsychotics, and must be taken as directed, which usually means that they are not discontinued or rapidly altered in dosage or frequency. Psychotherapy can allow for time to process emotional episodes and devise effective coping strategies to help manage the symptoms."

"Although medications are essential during the most severe phases of an episode, cognitive-behavior therapy can help to regulate moods during other phases of the condition," Stephen P. Hinshaw, Ph.D., author of Another Kind of Madness: A Journey through the Stigma and Hope of Mental Illness, tells Bustle. "Family therapy is quite helpful for providing support to parents, children, and siblings, and for enhancing family stability. Group therapy can really help, through peer monitoring and support, with motivating people to remain on their medications."