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Although, throughout history, Valentine's Day has been associated with romantic love, it's important to recognize all types of love. Love for friends, love for family, and even love for pets. I'm already planning the heart-shaped carrot cake I'll be making my dog, Hubbell, this Valentine's Day. Because when you love someone you want to give them something they'll truly enjoy. And, as far as your friends go, is there anything they'll enjoy more than orgasm? I mean, in addition to wine and pizza, of course.
It's the love of spreading pleasure to those most important to you that inspired Unbound to launch their Give a Fu*k campaign. Now, through February 14, Unbound wants you to "spread the love." When you purchase one Squish vibrator ($99) from their new "Babe Pack," they'll send one free Zip vibe to anyone you want — whether that person be a friend, family member, or your partner. The choice is yours!
"In a time when we're all walking on eggshells with regards to what's appropriate sexually, we should be leaning into conversations about our sexual wellness with those we love now more than ever," Unbound’s CEO, Polly Rodriguez, tells Bustle.
But as awesome as it is to send your BFF a vibrator for Valentine's Day, you still want to approach it delicately. Here are the basic ground rules of how to give your BFF a vibrator for V-Day, according to Rodriguez.
1Talk About It First
As with all sex-related things, consent is key. "Be sure to have a conversation about it first so consent can be provided," says Rodriguez. You may think that you and your BFF, the person with whom you can talk about everything and anything, even the grossest stuff you'd never even tell your therapist, would be totally open to getting a vibrator from you, you just want to be sure. Granted, it will ruin the surprise, but the pleasure she'll get from it will make up for it.
2Don't Give A Vibrator As Joke
You don't give someone a vibrator as a joke because they haven't had sex in months or years, and snicker about it. It's not just bad form, but female sexuality isn't funny, so trying to make a joke about it just adds to the stigma around women and sex.
3Make Sure Your Intention Is One Of Love
"Make sure [giving the vibrator] comes from a place of love," says Rodriguez. You love your friend, you want them to enjoy themselves, and there's no greater gift than celebrating female sexuality than the gift of orgasms.
4Tell Them Why You're Giving It To Them
Because you love your friend, you might want to elaborate on why. "You're gifting a vibrator to a person in your life not because they need it," says Rodriguez, "but because they deserve it."
We all deserve healthy and happy sex lives, and masturbation is an important part of that. You need to know how to get yourself off and have an understanding of your body, in order for your sex life to be as great as it possibly can.
5Head To Unbound To Buy Your Squish
Once you've covered the basics, as Rodriguez suggests, hop on over to Unbound's site, put your Squish vibrator in your cart, and make your purchase. You also might want to check out what other treats they have; they have quite a collection for every sexual desire and interest.
6Send The Zip Vibe To Your BFF
Before you check out, you'll be given an option to input your friend's email address and a code will be sent to them. With that code, your friend can order their very own Zip vibe thanks to you. Then you can pat yourself on the back or high-five yourself. You know, however you usually celebrate you doing awesome things for humanity.
"As someone who has been gifting [vibrators] for years, when you do it the right way, I can truthfully say that it is the best gift you can give to someone you care about in your life," says Rodriguez. And she's right. Female sexuality shouldn't just be taken out of the shadows, but celebrated. Giving your BFF a vibrator for Valentine's Day doesn't just show you care, but is a celebration that we've reached a point in our society where more and more women are embracing their sexuality. You'll also totally make yourself Friend of the Year with that gift.
