When it comes to relationships, no one is perfect. We all have our strengths, but we also have our weaknesses — it's just easier to ignore the latter, and act like we aren't doing anything wrong. Here's the thing, though: by not acknowledging what you're bad at as a romantic partner, you could be hurting your relationships badly and potentially causing their downfall. So, as miserable as it sounds, it's important to examine what you do wrong in a relationship — and your Myers-Briggs type can definitely help you figure that out. The personality examination can fill you in on the things you do best and the areas you need to improve in. Your Myers-Briggs type can also help you see what you're worst at in relationships.
First, though, it's helpful to understand what your type is. The Myers-Briggs personality test is based on Jungian psychology. The results show you what your personality truly is, and can help you figure out so many things, from how to upgrade your life to what career you would be happiest in. Many people also use the results as a guide to how they should behave when dating someone - and it definitely isn't a bad idea.
So where do you need to improve when it comes to your romantic partnership? The answers might surprise you! Here is what you're worst at in relationships based on your Myers-Briggs type:
INTJ: You Come Off As Judgmental
As an INTJ, you are extremely rational, you're very smart, and your critical thinking skills are impressive. But your ability to open up and express your feelings to your partner? Not so impressive. INTJs are known for having issues with communicating their feelings in a way that isn't harsh or judgmental. As a result, your partners often feel a little attacked. Your brutal honesty, which you see as completely logical, can often leave your partner feeling hurt. You need to learn how to talk about your feelings the right way while still keeping their feelings in mind.
ENTJ: You're Too Unforgiving
As an ENTJ, you are something of a perfectionist. Always thinking about the future and your long-term goals, you tend to be hard on others — including your romantic partners. You don't quite understand when someone doesn't have the exact same methods or goals as you do, and it can lead you to cut them off pretty quickly. Your biggest weakness is being too unforgiving in your attempt to make the relationship run smoothly. If your partner messes up even a little or something that happens that makes you question your future together even a small amount, you're ready to jump ship. You need to learn how to be more forgiving, and try to be willing to work through issues rather than just run from them.
INTP: You Can't Pick Up On Your Partner's Emotional Needs
As an INTP, you're very logical and you're a great analytical thinker. When it comes to the emotional stuff, though, you end up feeling a bit lost. You know how to think critically and how to analyze what's going on, but you're not the best at picking up on what your partner needs emotionally. You look for logical solutions to issues, but sometimes that's not what the situation calls for. As hard as it may be, you need to focus on trying to pick up on emotional cues more often.
ENTP: You're A Little Too Demanding
In a relationship, an ENTP is really dedicated to making sure things never get boring. You're constantly on the road to self-improvement, and that's great! You can make sure a relationship is always exciting and interesting. But this can turn into a downside as well, especially since you don't get it when people want to maybe slow down for a second. Your need to keep things fun and interesting, to constantly do something new or work on improving everything, can come across as demanding and a little harsh, which can stress out your partner. Try to fight this by taking time to stay in the moment once in a while.
INFJ: You Don't Give Second Chances
For an INFJ, a relationship is a deeply meaningful experience — you're not one for casual encounters. Because your relationships mean so much to you, you're pretty good at them. That said, you're also a little bit too much of a perfectionist sometimes. If your partner breaks your trust even a little bit, you're out — no consideration of anything else, no second chances, no forgiving. This may sometimes be warranted, but other times it may be a little too quick. Try to hear your partner out before immediately shutting them out of your life.
ENFJ: You're A Little Needy
When it comes to your partner, you want them to always be happy and to always feel great about the relationship. That's great! You know how to open up and communicate about emotions, which is a plus... well, except when it happens a little too much. ENFJs can come across as too needy, constantly asking your partner what's wrong, checking up on them, making sure they're happy with you, making sure they still love you. That can get a bit annoying after a while. Remember: you don't always need to check in.
INFP: You're Very Hard To Please
As an INFP, you're known for being a dreamer — you have all of these perfect fantasies in your head, and you often find that reality can't come close to that. You want your relationship to be perfect, and if it isn't, you can feel really disappointed. This way of thinking can lead to you being very hard to please, which can frustrate and alienate your partner. You need to remember that your partner is never going to be perfect, and neither is your relationship. Lower those expectations just a bit!
ENFP: You Have Trouble With Commitment
OK, so, as an ENFP, you can be a really fun partner who works hard to keep things working. But then, suddenly, you might feel like maybe things aren't working out, or your partner isn't doing exactly what you want them to do, and you might suddenly end the relationship without ever really committing. It sometimes seems like you're really open about how you feel, but you aren't — and that can negatively affect your relationships.
ISTJ: You Play By The Rules A Little Too Much
ISTJs are super, super logical and rational. On the one hand, you are really devoted and dedicated to any partner you have. On the other hand, you are so set on following specific dating rules and doing things the logical "right" way that you have trouble seeing things in any other way. This can hold you back from picking up on your partner's emotional needs, and it can keep you from compromising or trying to make things work in other ways. Try not to focus on the facts all the time.
ESTJ: You Can Come Off As Cold
If you're an ESTJ, you are really good at stable, long-term relationships. You're straightforward and you stick to what you say — all good things! When it comes to emotional intimacy, though, you're lacking. You might have trouble showing affection in a typical way (like through PDA), and you tend to be so rational that you ignore what your partner is feeling or saying. These traits can cause you to come across as a bit cold and a little too focused on your need to be right. Try to pick up on emotional cues more!
ISFJ: You Struggle At Voicing Emotions
ISFJ types are known for being super helpful and kind — so helpful and kind, in fact, that you often worry more about others than yourself. But you are also known for being shy and reserved, and those qualities can make it hard for you to open up about what you want and how you feel. This struggle to open up can lead to an eventual moment where you explode with all of the feelings and emotions you've been hiding. As hard as it may be, try to speak up for yourself more often so you can avoid huge blowouts.
ESFJ: You Can Be Too Sensitive
As an ESFJ, you love to be in a serious relationship and you love to take care of your partner and make them happy. But you also love to be needed and loved — and if you don't feel that way, it can really upset you. As an ESFJ, you can be a little too sensitive, making it difficult for your partner to voice their concerns or issues, meaning nothing ever really gets fixed. Because of this, you also avoid confrontation and conflict, and every relationship needs some of that to work. Try to work on putting personal feelings aside and understand that criticism is sometimes necessary.
ISTP: You Have Trouble Letting Others In
If you're an ISTP, you may find that relationships are hard for you. For one thing, you have trouble committing - you like to have a lot of space and time to yourself, and if someone can't give that to you, you have zero qualms about walking away for good. You like to do things your way, and you don't feel the need to be strapped down to what one other person wants. You also have trouble with the emotional stuff, and find difficulty being vulnerable or voicing your emotions. This is going to seriously hurt your chances of a successful long-term relationship, so learn to work on opening up.
ESTP: You Get Bored Too Easily
ESTPs are fun, dynamic, and full of surprises. That's great, but these things don't always lend to a stable relationship. You have trouble with commitment because you get bored way too easily — you're probably known for jumping from person to person, or only taking part in casual dating. If things start to feel stale, you have no problem leaving that person and looking for someone else. You want to constantly have fun and be entertained, and that's more important to you than emotional intimacy. That's fine if you're cool with casual dating, but if you're looking for something more long-term, you need to figure out ways to keep your relationship from feeling stale.
ISFP: You're Too Mysterious
As an ISFP, you can be difficult to get to know — your partner might find you mysterious and confusing. You like to listen to them talk, but you have your guard up when it comes to yourself, and you don't always open up completely. At the same time, you like to be told that you're loved and needed, and you struggle with dealing with criticism. All of these things can lead to you being too mysterious, leaving your partner totally lost. Try to open up more! Don't keep everything to yourself.
ESFP: You Move Too Fast
You are a fun, free-spirited person who isn't afraid of jumping all in - and unfortunately, this can be a bad thing when it comes to dating. You might jump into serious relationships too quickly, professing love even if it's not really there... and then one thing might happen that changes your mind, and you're out. You're too impulsive! You need to focus on thinking things through before making any big decisions.
