Match's Chief Dating Expert Explains How To Get More Meaningful Responses On Dating Apps

The biggest thing, says DeAlto, is creating a positive profile.

"You don't have to ooze unicorns, puppies, and rainbows," she says. "But many people say things like 'Don't contact me if...' or they are just openly negative about dating and say they hate apps."

But don't start off by saying your angry and putting out those negative vibes. If you have nothing nice to say, says DeAlto, don't say it.

Especially if you're feeling down on dating, it can sometimes feel like being "you" is the last person you should be in order to find someone. Not true, my friends. Not true.

"People often think they have to pretend to be someone else to be liked," says DeAlto. "But as the saying goes, there is a lid for every pot. So how is the lid supposed to fit you if you aren't being yourself?"

If you're corny for example, own it, she says. If you like dad jokes, then that's your thing. Sometimes the things we think will make us "unloveable" are actually what make us most endearing.

DeAlto says that something she sees a lot in dating profiles are mantras, life theories, and popular sayings. Things like "work hard, play hard" or "stay positive."

"If you have a theory on life, that's great," she says. "But a dating profile isn't the place for that."

Focus on who you are and what you like!

Yes, it's all about those positive, happy pictures.

"Oftentimes, we have people call us [at Match], especially guys, asking about why they aren't getting responses," she says. But when a dating expert takes a look at their pictures, DeAlto says, they have sunglasses on in every one and there is like, a toilet bowl in the background.

DeAlto says when it comes to pics, post five to seven pictures max, add a full body picture, and make sure you look at least a little bit happy.

"Give us a grin, move your cheeks up in some way," she says.

Her other piece of advice for pictures? Try to add shots that can act as conversation starters. Maybe it's you with a pet or on a trip. Anything that can make reaching out a little easier for people.

You know that old writing advice from school, "show don't tell?" Well, samesies for dating profiles.

"Saying you're funny or ambitious or active without examples happens a lot," says DeAlto. Think of it like an advertisement of your interests. Let people know what you actually enjoy or how you spend your time.

You definitely don't want to seem like you are using the same greeting for everyone, she says. That is super important.

DeAlto says that you want to both personalize the greeting with someone's name, and base your initial conversation on something in their profile. "If someone is kind, you get a better response rate," she says.

Ask a question as a conversation starter. In fact, always ask questions.

Sometimes people want to meet right away because they get frustrated with the whole online communication thing. But people need a little while to warm up and get a feel for each other.

"People need to feel comfortable, safe, and secure," she says. The dating experts try to encourage people to keep communicating on Match for a little bit longer, as it is important to developing a bit of a connection before you meet.

That being said, you don't need to go too far into your life story before the first date.

"You can go deep when you're actually on the date," says DeAlto. But for now, while you're on the app, light and fluffy is where you want to keep it. Stick with flirting and banter, since you're only really going to get to know each other in person.

Again, while dating can seem overwhelming, taking it step by step makes it all the easier. You aren't in this alone! And really, there is help out there for all your dating woes.