5 Seemingly Boring First Date Questions That Can Actually Reveal A Lot

You can tell a lot about a person based on this unbelievably basic question! If your date responds with ‘it’ and ends with ‘was alright,’ I think it’s safe to cut the date right there. Someone who can’t engage and communicate in a simple exchange is probably not someone you'll want to go out with again. This question is also a good indicator as to whether someone is a positive or not-so-positive person or a ranter-types. And maybe you’re totally into grumpy cats, but those who prefer happy and lighthearted first dates, I suggest sipping on your drink quickly and dipping out ASAP.

Again, this one will probably come up naturally but is still important! If your date says they frequent the bar you’re at, this is a clue that they are a creature of habit — once they find something they like they stick with it! If their answer is no, this is a big indicator that they are spontaneous and like to try new things! Not only are they going on a first date which takes some guts but they’re also doing it in a spot they’ve never been to. If you’ve ever been on a date with someone and you realize they take all their dates there: NEXT!

Career can either be a pain point or a source of pride. Focus less on what their actual job is and more about the way they deliver the answer. I’d prefer a Bartender that has a passion for pouring shots over a totally unmotivated Computer Programmer! That said, there’s nothing wrong with hating your job — we’ve all been there! But if your date is a sourpuss about their 9 to 5, it’s important to ask what hobbies they’re passionate about outside of work. Beware of those who hate their job and have no hobbies and conversely those who are obsessed with what they do and that’s pretty much the only thing they can talk about.

This question is just about as generic as they come, but can be a window into your date’s social life. If your date says they’ve lived in the area for a while (at least two years), this is a pretty clear indication that they have a solid network of friends in the area. While there is obviously nothing wrong with being new to a place, be mindful that those that are new to the area may tend to use dating apps to meet a ton of new people quickly (aka they’re going on dates every single night of the week to make platonic friendships). Of course, it won't be the case for every newbie, but take note if a date makes a pointed effort of trying to “stay friends” with you even if it seems like you two have nothing in common.

Out of all the questions on this list, this one is by far the most strategic. Understanding one’s future goals can really help you figure out if your date is here for a good time or here for a long time. And while there is nothing wrong with either, you deserve to know before you finish your first drink. If your date says that they’d consider moving back to their hometown, this shows they’re close with the fam. If your date says they’d like to move somewhere abroad this is a big indicator that they really value new and exciting experiences. Moving is a rather strategic decision for most of us — for instance maybe they’re applying to grad school there or they’re seeking a career in a specific industry (aka moving to San Francisco to work in tech).

If you’re satisfied with your date’s answers to these five totally generic questions that are unbelievably telling, then go ahead and ask them one more: “Should we get another round?”