The Most Common Holiday Dating Questions, Answered By Match's Chief Expert

Well, DeAlto gives this question a pretty firm "absolutely not." Even though the twinkling lights of your home town might seem like a perfectly romantic way to rekindle something, as DeAlto says, "Your exes are exes for a reason."

"It’s a rough situation most of the time," DeAlto says. "Typically what I find is that when people reconnect with their ex, not much has changed. We tend to glorify what happened in the relationship the further we get from it."

So, unless something has significantly changed in their personality - it’s best that you leave well enough alone. It's just too slippery a slope.

"Obviously there is chemistry there, but the problem is usually that nothing else has changed," DeAlto says. You usually break up because of things like differences in values or priorities. To go back to that is just opening yourself (and/or them) up to more heartbreak.

"Find me 10 people that worked out well for," DeAlto says, of reuniting with an ex for the holidays, "and then I will change my mind."

"Don’t take anyone home unless you plan on them being around indefinitely," DeAlto says. "If someone has been single for awhile — they might have the desire to show proof they've got someone. But unless it is serious, and not something you aren't too sure about, it's safer for everyone involved to wait."

However, DeAlto says that indeed, everyone has to make their own decisions. So follow your gut, and if you definitely want to bring home your person after dating a month, DeAlto says to "understand the why." Meaning, ask yourself why that feels like a good idea, and how you might feel about your choice in January or February if things don't go as planned.

"What’s the harm in giving it a longer vetting period?" DeAlto says.

This one applies most commonly to students, but can be applied to anyone who might be spending a significant amount of time away from people they are seeing.

"If you are separated during holidays, make contact a priority," DeAlto says. There are so many ways to do it from Face Timing, calls, texts, and picture updates of what you're cooking. There are plenty of ways to keep each other involved in your life, even when you have a ton of stuff going on like a long day with family.

"You don't have to be in constant contact, but be consistent, that is the most important thing," DeAlto says.

DeAlto says to keep in mind that if someone breaks up because of a week or a month apart, that's a great sign to move onto someone who cares about your feelings and wants what you want.

Well, short answer, whatever you're comfortable with and legitimately want to share. But DeAlto says that it's probably a little better to keep things close to the vest and not open up about everything going on unless you enjoy having tons of opinions thrown at you.

"You can be general about it, say that you're seeing some people, and seeing where it goes," DeAlto says. "Not everyone needs to know your business. "

Ultimately, you have to know yourself and how you are going to react to everyone’s comments or lack-there-of. So go with your gut.

DeAlto says she tends to err on the side of making everyone happy and trying to balance things out.

"It may not be your partner feeling left out [if you don't go see their family]," DeAlto says. It's likely going to be the family that feels neglected. Thusly, you can to try to figure out a way that everyone feels taken care of. She herself is going to her mom's house on Thanksgiving, and her partner's house the day after.

See, there's a hotline answer for everything, my friends.