Kat & Alex Shared A Wedding Update After The Ultimatum

A dating app success story, couple of two years Kat Shelton and Alex Chapman joined The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On Season 2 to figure out if they could “go from Hinge to hitched.” Describing them as a “fun, adventure-loving couple,” Alex, 32, said he hasn’t “been able to propose” to Kat, 28, because they’ve just been too busy. That’s partly because Kat took a job on the road as a travel nurse, and Alex, who works in software sales, joined her in journeying around the country, while they’ve leaned into their “sense of adventure.” But did Kat and Alex get engaged and stay together after The Ultimatum?

Despite their common interests, Kat and Alex couldn’t have more disparate communication styles. While she is “conflict avoidant, preferring to defer to Alex instead of making her own decisions,” he “wants to be challenged by a partner who feels like his equal and isn’t afraid to speak their mind.” That’s one thing that attracted him to his trial marriage partner, Roxanne Kaiser. Admitting on the Netflix series that challenging him is something that’s “hard to do,” Alex explained it’s something he and Kat had “struggled with” during their relationship.

Though Kat was aware of his concerns — and her loved ones couldn’t figure out what he was waiting for — she issued Alex the titular ultimatum, knowing she “can’t imagine her life without” him. “I think we have something really special, and I wanna take that next step with you,” she told him before Ultimatum Day. “We just have the recipe for a really happy life together.” Still, Kat also had doubts that bringing them onto the show was the right decision, and Alex’s “logical and practical” mindset kept him from getting down on one knee.

When The Ultimatum Season 2 finale and reunion dropped on Aug. 30, viewers found out for certain that Alex finally proposed. After filming wrapped in late 2022, the engaged couple reunited with their Season 2 castmates this summer to share a relationship update: They set a wedding date and plan to marry on May 10, 2024. “Actually, Alex is, I think now, more ready to settle down than I am,” Kat told co-shots Nick and Vanessa Lachey. “He’s ready to have a house and he has more baby fever than I do. It’s shifted a little bit.”

Alex, for his part, confirmed he has “a little baby fever,” crediting his infant nephew for the change of heart. In fact, post-filming, he was mostly quiet on social media, except to share pictures with his family, particularly while “remembering to smell the roses” with his brother’s son. Fans had some other clues that he and Kat were still together after cameras stopped rolling, though. Aside from the fact they still followed each other on Instagram, the couple also had dozens of romantic, tagged couple’s photos on their pages. Though their most recent joint photo was from June 2022 on her page and September 2022 on his — shortly before The Ultimatum filmed — it seems they might have at least done some deleting if they’d gone through a breakup.

Kat’s first post-filming Instagram is a beach bikini photo, and, in the comments, Season 2 castmate Jelisa “Lisa” Horne wrote, “Hot nurse on the loose!” Her reply — “back at ya,” with a wink emoji — seems to hint that Lisa’s one cast member Kat stayed in touch with, despite her and Brian leaving the experiment early. Kat’s other few recent posts show that she traveled to Isla Mujeres with friends after cameras stopped rolling. It finally seems clear why they seemed to be keeping their other adventures under wraps, though: Kate and Alex couldn’t spoil their engagement.

Now they can finally send out the “save the date” magnets they showed off at the reunion.