Demi Lovato Explains Why She’s Now Using She/Her Pronouns Again

After coming out as non-binary in May 2021 and announcing that her preferred pronouns moving forward will be they/them, Demi Lovato revealed 14 months later on Aug. 2 that she’ll also go by she/her pronouns when referring to her gender identity. “Recently I’ve been feeling more feminine, and so I’ve adopted she/her again,” the 29-year-old announced on “The Spout Podcast.” “But, I think what’s important is, like, nobody’s perfect. Everyone messes up pronouns at some point, and especially when people are learning, it’s just all about respect.”

Lovato now lists she/her pronouns next to they/them in her Instagram bio, which she previously updated in April. “For me, I’m such a fluid person that...I felt like, especially last year, my energy was balanced in my masculine and feminine energy so that when I was faced with the choice of walking into a bathroom and it said ‘women’ and ‘men,’ I didn’t feel like there was a bathroom for me because I didn’t feel necessarily like a woman. I didn’t feel like a man. I just felt like a human. That’s what they/them is about for me. It’s just about, like, feeling human at your core.”

When first discussing pronoun identity in 2021, the HOLY FVCK singer outlined that they had been “doing some healing and self-reflective work,” which led to re-examining their gender identity and how to express herself.

In the May 2021 clip promoting the 4D podcast, Lovato spoke about the journey to coming out and embracing they/them pronouns. “Not only has my life been a journey for myself, I was also living for those on the other side of the cameras. Today is a day I'm so happy to share more of my life with you all – I am proud to let you know that I identify as non-binary and will officially be changing my pronouns to they/them moving forward,” Lovato wrote on Instagram, “Sharing this with you now opens another level of vulnerability for me. I’m doing this for those out there that haven’t been able to share who they truly are with their loved ones.”

Lovato continued, “I’m still learning and coming into myself, and I don’t claim to be an expert or a spokesperson.” On her 4D podcast, she spoke to friend, author and artist Alok Vaid-Menon, about how her life had changed leading up to that point.

Lovato said [per Metro], “In 2018, when I overdosed, I feel like the reason why that happened was because I was ignoring my truth, and I was suppressing who I really am in order to please stylists or team members or even fans.” Lovato explained that coming out as non-binary was the start of them living their truth and “for the first time in my life, I’m putting my wellbeing before my career.”

Lovato has been a vocal advocate for LGBTQ+ rights throughout her career. In March 2021, they came out as pansexual. Speaking on the Joe Rogan Podcast, Lovato said, “I heard someone call the LGBTQIA+ community the alphabet mafia. I’m part of the alphabet mafia and proud.”