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Clare Crawley & Dale Mossâ Romance Goes Way Beyond Their Bachelorette Whirlwind
From love at first sight to social media fights, their story is never boring.

The Bachelorette Season 16 was peak pandemic viewing. Amid Bachelor Nationâs calls for more diversity on the show and new COVID-19 protocols, Clare Crawley searched for love among contestants who had to quarantine and have multiple tests before even getting their chance to vie for her heart. And still, despite all of that, Crawley walked away with an engagement, upending the showâs typical outline and producersâ plans in the process.
After just 12 days of dating husband hopefuls, Crawley famously called it quits on The Bachelorette, deciding to throw away those extra roses and accept a proposal from contestant Dale Moss. If youâre doing the math, yes, that means sheâd known her fiancĂŠ for less than two weeks when he popped the question. As a result, ABC cast Tayshia Adams as the new Bachelorette, clearing the way for the engaged couple, who fell in love at first sight (allegedly, but more on that later), to live happily ever after.
However, that wasnât the end of Crawley and Mossâ story. They appeared to call it quits within months, before getting back together once again. Despite some social media drama at the time, the couple then appeared to be living their best lives together before calling off the relationship once again in September 2021. In honor of their whirlwind romance, weâre looking back at how it started and digging into how itâs going with the once-lovebirds.
March 2020: Crawley Is Ready To Find The One
On March 2, 2020, the then-39-year-old hairstylist from Sacramento, California, was officially announced as Season 16âs Bachelorette during a Good Morning America interview. At the time, she said she was looking for a man willing to âtake off his armorâ and listed vulnerability and willingness to be open as desirable traits for her future suitors.
June 2020: The Bachelorette Cops To Some Contestant Recon
Crawley was originally slated to step out of the limo and begin filming in March, but because of the pandemic, her season wasnât able to shoot until July. In the meantime, she admitted on the Bachelor Happy Hour podcast that June, she did some research on the contestants, including Googling the men. âObviously. What woman wouldnât? Are you kidding me?â she said. âI will say this. At first, I really didnât. I really did not and it was because, I donât know, I just kind of felt like I want to get to know them and regardless, I know how my Instagram is.â The Bachelorette explained her view that social media is just a piece of a personâs life and âyou have to see and feel it in person.â Plus, she noted that sheâs âhuge on pheromones.â
July 2020: Relationship Rumors Heat Up
On July 29, resident Bachelor Nation sleuth Reality Steve started dropping spoilers from Crawleyâs season on social media. He shared that a 31-year-old named Dale had received the first impression rose. The next day, a source told Life & Style that Crawley had not only given him the first rose, but had already given him her heart as well, sharing, âShe told producers she no longer wanted to participate in the show,â adding that Clare had âalready fallen in love.â The plot thickened on July 31, when another source took to Reddit to claim that production was having âproblems with Clareâ while filming The Bachelorette.
âOn Monday, I got some messages saying that production is having a lot of problems with Clare during filming,â the post read. âAmong other things, she canceled everything that was supposed to happen that Saturday before, and they called in a new Bachelorette. They are recasting her with Tayshia. Tayshia is already quarantining at the hotel and they should be taking her phone on Friday (today). The plan is for her to call back some guys that have already been eliminated.â
August 2020: Breaking The Bachelorette
On Aug. 3, Life & Style reported that a source close to the pair had said that Crawley and Moss were officially engaged, seemingly confirming rumors. That same day, a source told People that the lead had been chatting with a certain someone before she got on the show. âOne of her potential guys found a way to get in touch with her and they began talking,â the source said. âBy the time filming officially began, they were basically already in love. No one else stood a chance. It just became so obvious from her subsequent few dates that her heart wasnât in it and she just wasnât feeling it. Then she said she wanted out.â
On Aug. 7, OK! added fuel to the fire by reporting that the couple had been sent away from the set. âDale and Clare have been whisked away to a private home where they will stay until the show debuts,â a source told the magazine. âSo far, everything is being kept a mystery. Which is why we havenât seen or heard from Clare for weeks.â
September 2020: Dropping Hints
On Sept. 2, The Bachelorette dropped a promo for Crawleyâs season featuring moments to come and (inexplicably) Keke Palmer in the studio singing Aretha Franklinâs âRespect.â In it, fans saw Crawley locking lips with Moss, a foreshadowing of things to come.
October 2020: âI Just Met My Husbandâ
On Oct. 12, People shared an exclusive clip from the series premiere of the moment Crawley and Moss first met. In it, the Bachelorette says, âOh, man. I definitely feel like I just met my husband. Iâm shaking!â
The next day, Us Weekly published an interview in which Crawley discussed rumors that sheâd fallen for Moss too fast. âMy question would be to the people that are saying that â to the people that question it â what exactly is the formula for falling in love?â she said. âIs there one way to do it? Is there one example of this is how itâs done?â
On Oct. 19, Crawley took to Instagram to downplay rumors that sheâd been wearing an engagement ring. âPeople have noticed I wear this ring on my wedding finger and have asked why! The truth is because it is a commitment to myself first and foremost, to embody self-love,â she shared in the post. âIn the past I found myself getting into relationships where there was little to no reciprocity and, in the end, would feel depleted and empty. This is my promise to myself, to make sure I always had enough self-love that no matter what happened, I was committed to loving myself unconditionally, and that is something no man could take away from me.â But that didnât exactly put rumors to rest considering what was about to happen.
November 2020: The Engagement Goes Public
Just a short four episodes into the series, Crawley and Moss officially announced their engagement. After leaving the show as predicted, the couple told fans on Instagram live, âWeâre going to enjoy this moment. Weâve been waiting a long time,â Moss said. Crawley seconded his statement, saying, âWeâve waited three months to share this with you guys.â
January 2021: Breakup Or A Break?
Things seemed great with the couple based on their canoodling on social media and even their open comments about their relationship â that is, until they didnât. On Jan. 19, a source spoke to E! News, sharing, âClare and Dale have been fighting a lot recently.â The insider went on to claim that it had been âvery tenseâ between them because Moss wanted to live in âa lively city and focus on his career,â whereas Crawley âis rooted in Sacramento to help care for her mom.â While the source did say they were âstill getting to know each other and figuring it all out,â things were apparently looking pretty bleak. âTheyâve decided to take some time apart for now... They are still figuring out the logistics of their relationship and if they will stay together,â the person added.
In a now-deleted Instagram post on Jan. 19, Moss announced that they had split. âI wanted to share with you all that Clare and I have decided to go our separate ways,â he wrote. âWe appreciate the love and support weâve received from so many people, but this is the healthiest decision for both of us at this time.â He went on to add, âWe strongly believe in leading with love and always remaining true to oneselfâsomething our families have taught and instilled in us throughout our lives. We only hope the best things for one another.â Finally, he called for privacy for the two as they â[worked] through this together.â
Crawley responded with her own, now-deleted post, but her statement shared a different perspective. âI was made aware of a âmutualâ statement at the same time you all were, so Iâve needed some time to really digest this,â she wrote. After making it clear that she was blindsided by the breakup, she went on to say, âOur relationship was not perfect, but I can say that I was genuinely invested with all of my heart.â
February 2021: Reunited? Maybe.
On Feb. 16, fans started spotting Crawley and Moss together at restaurants and strolling around town together, making it clear that they were on better terms again. A source shared with Us Weekly, âThey were just hanging out, having a couple drinks.â Another source told E! News, âDale had regret over everything that happened between him and Clare and has been reaching out to her recently. She finally caved and decided to answer his calls and talk it out with him.â
March & April 2021: Back On Again
On March 17, a source told Us Weekly that the couple was officially back on but taking it slow. âThey are now just starting to really understand all the difficulties a public relationship can create, and they want to make sure they are giving their relationship the opportunity it deserves without all stress and anxiety that followed after the show,â the person said.
On March 21, Crawley spent her birthday in Napa, posting Instagram stories in celebration. Soon, fans began to speculate that her Bachelorette winner was with her. Though they didnât share photos together, Moss also posted pictures from Napa that same day.
By April 16, Moss was semi-happy to chat about their relationship again. âClare and I, weâre in a good place. When the time is right, we will definitely talk about all those things,â he told the Hollywood Raw podcast. âFor right now, weâre just focused on one another. Weâre keeping things private and thatâs working for us. In time, weâll speak about that together.â
May 2021: The Ring Is Back!
In May, things seemed to be back to normal. Crawley was back on Mossâ Instagram feed, and he was back on hers as well. But, perhaps more tellingly, the huge diamond engagement band made its triumphant return to the former Bacheloretteâs ring finger.
July 2021: What A Difference A Year Makes
On July 6, a source shared with Us Weekly that the couple is âengaged but still are working on building a solid relationship.â The insider also said the two had spoken about their future, but âthey arenât rushing to tie the knot.â
Later, both Crawley and Moss shared Instagram posts in honor of the 365 days of their whirlwind relationship. She captioned her post, âHappy One Year Anniversary Love!!â Dale shared a similar sentiment writing, âWhen we first met I knew godâs hand was at work but I could have never imagined the journey he had in store for us. Love you with all my heart @clarecrawley â¤ď¸.â
August 2021: Marriage Rumors
Less than a month after celebrating their first anniversary, Cosmopolitan reported that multiple tipsters told celebrity gossip account Deuxmoi that Clare and Dale officially tied the knot. âClare and Dale are married,â one insider reportedly revealed. âThey did it in âsecretâ but filmed it with a small crew and serious NDA.â The insider added that the couple was in the process of ânegotiatingâ with print magazines to set up coverage that will coincide with a wedding special.
Although Deuxmoiâs second tipster didnât mention a televised wedding, they did say that the former Bachelorette couple exchanged vows. âYes Clare and Dale are married,â they wrote, adding that the reality stars hope to have babies âASAP.â Fans on Reddit also noticed the former athlete wearing a ring in Clareâs Instagram Stories, but some fans claimed that it was for sleep-tracking and that it wasnât a wedding band. Clare and Dale have not yet confirmed or denied the marriage rumors, but following many highs and lows, the couple appeared stronger than ever in August 2021.
September 2021: Clare And Dale Split Again
Just eight months after their reconciliation, Dale was spotted attending several events without Clare by his side, including a friendâs Sept. 19 wedding â which she was reportedly invited to. â[Dale] didnât mention why she didnât go,â an insider told Us Weekly. âHe was celebrating a friendâs wedding and wasnât going around telling people about his own personal life.â
On Sept. 28, Us confirmed that Clare and Dale have yet again called off their relationship, though details of their split are currently unknown. âIt was best for them to go their separate ways at this time,â a source told the magazine. âThey will still support each other and have love for each other no matter what.â
On Sept. 30, Clare broke her silence on Instagram with a photo of her holding her motherâs hand. âIâm choosing not to speak right now on the details of my relationship,â she wrote, adding that sheâs still healing from her recent surgery and that her motherâs been placed on hospice care. âMy energy is focused on grieving, healing, and being present at home here in Sacramento,â she added.
Clare closed out her statement by thanking those who continue to love and support her even when things get hard. âI am just thankful for the people in my life who offer genuine unconditional love with no personal gain, and stand by me through thick and thin,â she added. âESPECIALLY WHEN THE CAMERAS ARE OFF with no accolades. Actions speak for themselves.â
October 2021: Cheating Rumors
Eagle-eyed fans were quick to notice that when Clare broke her silence on Instagram, she tagged Bachelor in Paradise star Abigail Heringer in the photo. This went down shortly after the Instagram account Deuxmoi shared an anonymous tip alleging that someone from BiP hooked up with a recent Bachelor or Bachelorette winner.
So, how did people come to the conclusion that it was Abigail and Dale? On Oct. 1, a source told Us Weekly that they âhooked upâ way before Paradise started filming and that Abigail was âunder the impression that he and Clare werenât serious.â According to the magazineâs insider, Clare found out about the cheating allegations because of all of the rumors floating around the internet, which is was prompted her to tag Abigail.
Itâs worth noting that a second source told the outlet that things were never romantic between Abigail and Dale. âThey met once at flag football in New York City that a bunch of Bachelor people attended,â the insider said. âEveryone went to a bar after, they did not sleep together. He never cheated on Clare. They never kissed or had sex. Dale is friends with Abigail.â
Abigail, for her part, seemed to laugh off the rumors. When her BiP love interest Noah Erb posted that thereâs been âa lot of interesting stuff swirling aroundâ on spoiler accounts, she was heard chuckling in the background. This came after several reports that the duo split on the Bachelor in Paradise finale, but theyâve since confirmed to the public that theyâre still together.
As for Clare and Dale, Daleâs rep confirmed to People on Oct. 4 that they called it quits. âDale and Clare broke up in mid September when Clare was in New York City spending time with him,â the statement read. âClare then chose to fly home to Sacramento and asked Dale to send her things. A couple of weeks later, Clareâs motherâs condition worsened, and Dale chose to immediately fly out to Sacramento to be with her.â
The rep added that Dale left Sacramento for work but had every intention of returning to be with Clare and her family. However, âhis number was blocked, which made it impossible to communicate with Clare.â Elsewhere in the statement, the rep said that Dale wouldnât address the Abigail rumors out of respect for Clare and her family. âDale knows what itâs like to watch a motherâs health deteriorate over time, and how devastating that is,â the statement continued. âHe hopes that people will understand the current situation enough to respect everyoneâs privacy during this time.â
Clare, for her part, made it clear that between her motherâs health and her breakup, things have been rough. âIt takes a lot to bring me to my knees... but damn this week has pushed me to that point,â she wrote on Instagram on Oct. 4. âOne thing I refuse to do though is stay down. Iâll be damned if I let it all take me out, so amidst all this, Iâm taking steps even if [they] are small. I will feed myself the right food, drink some water and handle it the best I know how.â
On Oct. 21, Clare reflected on the split on Jana Kramerâs âWhine Downâ podcast. âMy biggest regret is trusting the process, trusting a man â a manâs words and who he showed me he was,â she said, according to People. But even though she has regrets about The Bachelorette process and trusting Dale, she doesnât regret falling in love.
âI believed somebody that they were who they said they were or that they would hold up to the promises that they make when they get down on one knee... I donât know if that's a regret,â she continued. âI loved, and have always had such a deep love for, Dale, and A) he doesnât go away overnight and B) I donât regret that I loved loving him.â
Elsewhere in the podcast, Clare spoke about how hurtful it was that Dale never gave her the closure she needed. âItâs painful when you feel like somebody who you love deeply doesnât even have enough respect to take you to sit down and have a very vulnerable conversationâ she said. âItâs hurtful because itâs like, âYou think that little of me?â But yet he supposedly loved me ⌠Maybe that is the closure.â
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