If there’s anything in the world that men can agree on, it’s that most of them love blow jobs. For a lot of guys, getting a it's the ultimate sex act and making blow jobs more fun has a lot to do with enjoying yourself. No one likes to get oral from someone who’s cringing, gagging, or doing it out of obligation.
But to quote Samantha Jones from Sex and the City, “Honey, they don’t call it ‘job’ for nothing.” Even women who truly enjoy giving head don’t love it all the time. Giving a blow job isn't easy; there’s hair and balls and smells and anyone with a gag reflex can attest to the fact that putting a penis too far back in your throat can increase the possible chance for upchuck tenfold. Sure, giving a blow job to someone we care about is great, but when you get down to particulars, it’s not like it’s something any woman is just dying to do.
But, as with most things, you can make giving blow jobs more enjoyable. Even if you don’t like them at all, you can spice up things a bit, and maybe, kinda, sorta, learn to think they’re a-OK. Blow jobs will never be a piece of cake, but with these seven tips you can at least learn to enjoy them more than you have ― or love them more than you did, if you’re a big fan already.
1. Break Out Of Your Usual Technique
If you think giving a blow job is simply sliding his penis in and out of his mouth, then you’re definitely failing both you and your partner. Blow jobs should be fun for both of you! Lick, use your hands, play with his balls, incorporate toys, and talk dirty to him about how much you can’t wait to get that big stick of fun in your mouth… or something along those lines. If you branch out and experiment with new things, you’re already getting the mundane out of the way and that’s fun for both of you.
2. Use Lube
The best blow jobs involve a lot of lube. But if your mouth isn’t exactly as wet as it could be, then you need lube to help you out. Using a flavored lube will not only make it better for your partner, but it will take the pressure off of you to try to get your mouth up to maximum wetness. And who doesn’t want some strawberry lube swirling around in their mouth?
3. Throw Some Food Into The Mix
The most fun blow job I ever gave was due to a dark chocolate ganache that my partner and I thought would make the whole experience even better… and OMG, did it ever. Whether your choose chocolate or whipped cream, or maybe even pudding, adding something yummy to the equation will make giving your partner a blow job a tasty experience, especially if you’re not down with the general flavor or smell of that region. Also, I think we all remember the grapefruit blow job technique? Yum!
4. Believe In Your Skills
When you go into giving head you should go in with the mindset of conquering the task at hand. Yes, it’s a job, but it’s job you signed up to do because, well, your mouth wouldn’t be down there if you hadn’t. But the point is that you don’t want to doubt your ability, because then you’ll just end up feeling self-conscious. Instead, tackle it like a pro, without a single bit of insecurity, and you'll be able to have fun with it.
5. Put On A Show
If you ever wanted to try out your acting ability, there’s no time quite like giving a blow job. Why? Two reasons: All your moaning and OMG-ing will make him come faster than if you were just down there being silent, and you can turn it into entertainment for yourself. Imagine you’re giving an Academy Award winning performance, and give it your all.
6. Understand Just How Empowering It Is
While I know feminists are divided on this topic, this particular feminist happens to think that giving a blow job is empowering.
Empowerment comes with ownership of a situation and total autonomy, in which the control and decision making is in your hands. If you choose to give your partner a blow job and don’t do it out of some sort of sexual obligation, it is indeed empowering. You’re deciding for yourself what you want to do with your body, and if that involves putting a man’s penis in your mouth, then how can it not be empowering? Embrace the hell out of the moment.
7. Don’t Forget About Yourself
Just because you’re the one currently giving, doesn’t mean you should ignore yourself – nor should your partner. If you want to really enjoy giving a blow job, then you need to get something out of it, too. What that means is incorporating toys (perhaps, insert a vibrator before getting to it), taking care of yourself with a spare hand, or making sure your partner gives something back at the same time, too. Yes, it might be his turn, but sex is a give and take, and giving and taking is so much more fun when it’s done at once.
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