In the infamous words of Sex and the City’s Samantha Jones, "They don't call [a blow job] a job for nothing." Amen, sista. Not every woman likes giving blow jobs. Depending on the guy you're having oral sex with, a blow job can be like a sensuous power trip. Kind of like being president and knowing you could hit the red button at any moment. Or it can be the ultimate chore, where you're solely focused on getting him off as fast as possible.
But chances are, if you're with a dude, he probably loves a good blow job. So the last thing he wants to think is that giving him a BJ is on par with mopping the floor. Think about it, you wouldn't want him feeling that way about going down on you. Perhaps you’re grossed out by his lack of hygiene, the taste of his semen, or you’re just nervous about your oral skills. Regardless of your problem with giving oral sex, all of these things can be solved. You too can learn to love giving a blow job. Here are some ways to make your blow job experience more fun for both of you.
1. Embrace The Power
You have literally got him by the balls. You are in sole control of your partner's pleasure at this very moment, so embrace it! You’re like the Queen of England! Beyonce! Jessica Rabbit! Instead of feeling unsure of yourself down there, channel your inner Sasha Fierce and go downtown with confidence knowing that you are about to provide your partner some serious pleasure.
2. Fake It 'Til You Make It
Even if you don’t feel like you’re a BJ expert, pretend you are. First of all, you have his penis in your mouth. So that’s going to feel good from the get go. Leaving your teeth out, experiment with different speeds, rhythms, and hand movements. Blow jobs are meant to be fun, so don’t feel like you need to have a Masters Degree before you go down on him.
3. Pour On The Enthusiasm
Ever go to a class at the gym only to have an instructor who seems as excited to be there as they would be having their teeth drilled? Fun it is not. On the flip side, when you have an instructor who’s upbeat and personable, you enjoy it more. Well, the same goes for blow jobs. He wants to know you enjoy going down on him. It’s half the experience.
4. Find Something You LIke
There are many different aspects to giving blow jobs. Perhaps you really enjoy licking because it reminds you of ice cream cones. Or perhaps you really get off on making eye contact. Or maybe you really like playing with the balls. Focus on what you like and you’ll find the whole experience much more enjoyable. Like when you’re forced to go to Aunt Shirley’s house by your mom, but it’s worth it for her peach cobbler. Just think about the cobbler.
5. Don’t Forget Foreplay
If you’re feeling the pressure, try engaging in foreplay first to relax yourself. Instead ripping his pants and going straight for the BJ, take your time unzipping his pants. Or try massaging him first outside his pants and then inside. Et voila! Now you can enjoy blow jobs as much as you enjoy eating Twinkies. Almost.
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