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Jennifer Lopez Has a Fear of Being Alone

by Allyson Koerner

She's the queen when it comes to dancing, singing, acting, and writing, but that doesn't mean one of the most influential women in Hollywood (and across the globe) doesn't have insecurities. In a two-part interview airing Monday and Tuesday with NBC's Maria Shriver on Today, Jennifer Lopez talks about her new book, True Love, in addition to her insecurities and fears of finding love. As much as she is known for her success, Lopez is also known for her relationships including former loves Marc Anthony, Ben Affleck, Cris Judd, Sean "P. Diddy" Combs, and Casper Smart.

Lopez said in part one of the interview which aired Monday morning,

I feel like, when we're kids, you're sold into this fairy tale of what love is. That Prince Charming's gonna come along and save you and you're gonna live happily ever after. They're gonna rescue me from the Bronx, and we're gonna go off and live in a castle somewhere and it's gonna be awesome. He's gonna love me forever, and I'm gonna love him forever, and it's gonna be real easy. And it's so different than that.

Lopez revealed that she was mistaking passion for real love, but that that's going to change, especially since she wants to be on her own and learn more about herself. Now, she's living the single life and is trying to discover who she is without a man.

Judging by her confidence on stage, it never seemed like Lopez lacked strength, but she admits she had confidence in what she could do, but not in what she had to offer as a woman. She shared, "Nobody can save you or heal you. Only you can do that for you." Talk about influential words. She also hopes to share this sentiment with her twins, Max and Emme, one day, in addition to teaching them the right way to treat their significant others.

I think both men and women can learn something from Lopez. Not only are her words refreshing and inspiring to hear from one of the most beautiful and respected women of the entertainment industry, but it should make us realize that celebrities are real people too, who have flaws and are far from perfect. Regarding love (for yourself and others), Lopez offers many words of wisdom, and we should be listening carefully just like we do with her music. Excuse me while I go jam to "If You Had My Love."