Here's the thing about having sex with women: We all like it a little bit differently, so women's favorite sex positions can vary depending on the partner, the mood, or even time of day. Some like missionary all day, every day, while others prefer doggy style. In fact, doggy style is the most popular sex position among Millennials, followed by missionary and cowgirl, according to a recent SKYN Condoms Millennial Sex Survey. Still others have discovered sex positions so out-of-the-box that they don't even have names, but do wonders for their bodies and romantic relationships.
Unfortunately, a lot of romance movies and other media feature unrealistic sex scenes where there's little to no foreplay and both partners get off at the same time after just a few seconds of rocking the bed. That doesn't always happen in real life. Plus, you rarely see two people getting it on via any other sex positions besides missionary. Newsflash: P in V isn't the only way to have sex, and for every woman who loves missionary, you'll find someone else who loves doing the butterfly. Also, even in adult films, it's hard to find feminist porn that actually focuses on a woman's need for pleasure. Ultimately, the best sex positions are the ones that are the most comfortable, that feel good, and that both people are satisfied with. Here are 11 women on their favorite sex positions, and why:
1. Doggy Style
"I like the ways I can move in that position, and I feel very empowered and sexy." — Mary, 29
2. Reverse Cowgirl
"My favorite position is reverse cowgirl because I work really hard on leg days and know my booty should be looking nice. Also because the position feels really good, and is a way for both of us to have some kind of control." — Lauren, 25
3. It Depends
"My favorite positions for intercourse will vary depending on the man I'm with. Penises come in different shapes and with varied angles. I have a bunch of favorites, and again it depends on their anatomy and what kind of intercourse we are having. Is it sport f*cking? On my back with my feet on their shoulders, where I can watch them penetrating me...yummy. Or slightly on my side, with my upside leg around their hip and their hand gripping my hair. Slow lovemaking with a beloved? Missionary, where I can kiss them deeply and gaze into their eyes. And, for ultimate stimulation, the scissors position where they can simultaneously penetrate me while fingering my clitoris and I can watch their face as they come." — Rebekah, 53
4. Doggy Style And On Top
"My two favorites include doggy. In this position, a fairly large penis really hits the spot. It also allows my partner (hubby) to rub my clit or caress my breasts. He can also maneuver me by holding onto my hips. Another is me on top. That way he can caress and tease my breasts. I can also control the depth and my pleasure and lastly I can look into eyes to gauge his enjoyment and also kiss him soulfully." — Carol, 66
5. It's A Mix
"My favorite sexual positions are cowgirl helper, missionary, and flat iron." — Jennifer, 35
6. Doggy Down
"This where you are on all fours (doggy) but your head and arms are down on the bed. This way you can use your hands or with a vibrator on your clit without having your arms get sore from being on all fours with your arms. I love this position as it gives me control over pleasuring myself, great angle for deep penetration along with anal sex if I choose. Plus, I'm someone who likes to close my eyes and make my own fantasies in my head, so looking away helps me this way." — Sienna, 36
7. Knee-Chest (aka The Plow)
"I would have to say that my favorite position is the knee-chest position! It gives the most penetration and it feels amazing! It also serves as a great stretch!" — Leah, 33
8. Reverse Cowgirl
"I think it does a lot of interesting improvisations. There's lots of flexibility for both people, there's a certain level of intimacy, and I feel like it's a really powerful position for a woman." — Katie, 36
9. It Depends
"If they're good at having sex, then missionary because they know how to listen to your body and I can move around underneath them. If they're sitting with their legs straight and I'm on top, I can rub on their pelvic region, I can wait, or I can speed up." — *Abby, 31
10. Doggy Style
"My favorite sex position is doggy, for sure. But unlike most girls, I REALLY like missionary. I love it being face to face with a man on top."— Stefani, 31
11. Oral Sex
"I like when people go down on me. It's oddly relaxing-slash-therapeutic." — Steph, 28
So the next time you're about to have sex with a partner, do it in a way that makes you feel good. Or, if you're feeling adventurous, consider trying out one of the positions above in bed. You might end up having a new favorite sex position.
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