Sex is about exploration. Great sex is about experimenting, exploring, and pushing the boundaries a bit — consensually, of course. While missionary will always have its place and, honestly, can be a lot of fun, at some point, you need to branch out. If the Kama Sutra boasts over a 100 sex positions, who are we not to take advantage of them and give every one a whirl at least once? Well, not every one, because some are pretty damn tricky, but let’s say we should consider aiming for at least 50 percent of them. You know, for fun.
There are sex positions for everything and everyone. There are those ideal for quickies, sex positions that will make sex last longer, positions specific to penis size, positions that hit the G-spot just right, and everything in between. But then there are those positions that take things up a notch, make us raise an inquisitive eyebrow, and take us out of our comfort zone. These are the positions that offer a whole other level of pleasure, because sometimes stepping off your usual docket of sex positions can do wonders for your sex life.
So, if you’re looking to spice things up a bit and want to try a position that could rock your world in ways you didn’t know possible, here are nine positions that will get you out of your comfort zone — and you may find that you’ll never want to return to that comfort zone again. Remember, these positions work with two women as well.
1. In A Chair
How to do it: First of all, get a chair — a sturdy one. No one wants to end up on the floor because you decided to use your grandmother’s antique dining room chair that’s over 100 years old and was inexplicably left to you in her will. From here, have your partner sit, as one normally would in a chair, while you get on your partner, legs on either side facing them or, if you prefer rear entry sit on your partner facing away. Of course this also involves you guiding them inside you.
Why it will get you out of your comfort zone: If you’re someone who likes to hide out under the sheets during sex, then this position will completely take you out of your comfort zone because — voila! — no sheets. You’re also on a chair, as opposed to your usual spot (which I imagine for many is the bed), so it requires a bit of fancy maneuvering to stay on the chair, and you’re all exposed — which is really hot.
2. The Sofa Brace
How to do it: Although it’s called the sofa brace, don’t think that this position must be done on a sofa. Because of the position, you could actually do it on the stairs, with you on your knees, leaning on the stair above you, as your partner penetrates you from behind.
Why it will get you out of your comfort zone: Again, we have a position that takes you out of the bedroom. While the sofa brace alone will get you out of your comfort zone, for those you really want to get a bit crazy, then totally go for the stairs. You just might want a pillow for your knees, unless you like a little pain with your pleasure.
3. The Crab Walk
How to do it: If anything is going to get you out of your comfort zone, it’s this relatively difficult sex position. Similar to the crab walk that you were forced to do during the gymnastic chapter of your phys ed class way back in the day, both you and your partner get into the crab position and essentially crab walk your way too each other. (If you can do this without laughing, you get all the high fives.) From here, you should both have your feet and hands flat on the ground, as you lower yourself onto them… then let the grinding begin.
Why it will get you out of your comfort zone: Well, you’re in a damn crab position… so how can that not be out of anyone’s comfort zone? It also requires some finagling, far more than you’d ever find in missionary or doggy style, so that’s another reason it’s not your run-of-the-mill position. But in addition to this position being something you can brag about later, it will help your partner last longer than they normally would.
4. Reverse Cowgirl
How to do it: As the name suggests, it’s the cowgirl position, but reversed. So, straddle your partner, facing away from them, then lower yourself onto them.
Why it will get you out of your comfort zone: Honestly, comfort zones vary from person to person, so while this might not seem like a big deal to some, to others, it is. Personally, this one is out of my comfort zone, because if I lean forward in this position, my partner gets not a just a full view of my ass, but probably my butthole, too. However, I believe in pushing the envelope, consensually of course, during sex, so I do partake in this position and, yes, it takes me out of my comfort zone. I can’t imagine I’m alone with this one.
5. The Three-Legged Dog
How to do it: Because having sex standing up isn’t tricky enough with four legs, the three-legged dog subtracts even one more leg from the equation. However, if you have impeccable balance or a wall to guide you, all you really have to do with this one is face each other, have your partner lift one of your legs, and have them penetrate you from this standing position. Actually, if you put your leg in the crook of their arm, it’s going to give you a bit more balance, too.
Why it will get you out of your comfort zone: You’re standing; standing sex is automatically out of the comfort zone and, if you can have sex while standing, you can basically have sex anywhere. That being said, sex anywhere — bar bathroom, the coat check at your favorite five-star restaurant, the closet at your mom and dad’s house — the places are endless.
6. X Marks The Spot
How to do it: Lie on your back on something that’s going to put you in line. Then, cross your legs at either the knees or ankles. In doing so, you make for a tighter fit, which is great for partners with smaller penises.
Why it will get you out of your comfort zone: Well, it all depends on where you have sex with this particular position. For example, opting for the kitchen table or a desk are definitely going to take you out of your comfort zone, as opposed to your bed. Which is also hot AF.
7. On Top
How to do it: For this particular version of woman on top, your partner is going to be in a partially sitting position (maybe leaning up against a wall or headboard) with their knees bent, while you straddle facing them.
Why it will get you out of your comfort zone: Like reverse cowgirl, we’re dealing with a position that puts you in a vulnerable situation, because not everyone likes to be in control. If you’re more of a submissive type, this one will get you really out of your comfort zone, but, hey, you just might like it.
8. Standing
How to do it: With your partner standing behind you, just bend right on over so they can penetrate you from behind. If you can comfortably reach the floor with your hands for support, then that definitely works to your advantage. If you’re not that limber, you can put your hands on your knees for support.
Why it will get you out of your comfort zone: Well, look at this position! You’re bare ass, bent over, and essentially giving your partner all the power — which is really hot. But being a standing up position, and one that has a level of vulnerability to it, it can be a big step for some women.
9. The Lotus
How to do it: Have your partner sit with their legs crossed, then straddle them, lower yourself onto them, wrapping your legs around their waist. From here you can rock or gyrate or whatever feels right.
Why it will get you out of your comfort zone: The lotus position is an extremely intimate sex position. And, honestly, major intimacy is something that isn't within everyone's comfort zone. If you’re someone who usually turns to doggy style as your favorite, because of the primal aspect of it, the lotus position is on the other end of the spectrum, making it definitely something that, for some, will take them totally to a new place of comfort.
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