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Haters Don't Get 'Southern Charm's Kathryn Down

by Allyson Koerner

As all Southern Charm fans know, drama never ceases to surround Kathryn Dennis. From her on and off relationship with Thomas Ravenel to those heated arguments with many of her cast members to pretty much everyone throwing judgment her way, she can't escape the harsh opinions. Well, Kathryn continues to face criticism in Season 3, but guess what? While talking with Bustle, Kathryn reveals she isn't letting it influence her.

"I wouldn't say I care in the sense that it affects my life, but it is interesting seeing the way that people view you whenever they don't know you," Kathryn says about whether or not if the negative comments bother her. "A lot of the people who form opinions form opinions based on something that is totally separate from me. For example, Thomas. They think, 'Oh, she dated Thomas, you know, she is x, y, and z.'"

As viewers saw during Monday's Season 3 premiere, everyone — save for Craig Conover and a few other minor characters — had a lot to say about Kathryn. For example, when it comes to her second pregnancy with Thomas (they had a boy, St. Julien Rembert Ravenel, in November 2015), there are a lot of opinions flying around, especially from her co-star Cameran Eubanks, who said the two having another child is "irresponsible."

Regarding Cameran's comments, Kathryn says,

I think any child is a blessing from God. And I'm disappointed that Cameran said that, actually, because, whether or not she views it as responsible, I'm a very responsible parent and I will always be a responsible parent. Her words really don't affect me. It's hurtful that anyone would even say that about a child being born, but other than that I just have to let it go in one ear and out the other.

The same can be said for whatever Whitney Sudler-Smith's mother, Patricia Altschul, has to say about Kathryn. Patricia's never been a fan of Kathryn's, which she continued to express in the Season 3 premiere. As viewers saw during a chat with her son, Patricia scolded Kathryn for not being married, for not having a "proper education," and for not having a career. Kathryn says Patricia's harsh words are confusing, because they don't even know each other that well.

"[Patricia] says I'm irrelevant to her and not important and Thomas should leave me," the mother of two says. "But, I think I am just as important to her as her medicine, because I am the only thing that she talks about other than that. It's kind of confusing, because, truly, I don't know her. I've never been around her that much and had conversations with her in which we got to know each other. So, her anger must stem from something internal."

Patricia and Cameran aren't the only ones throwing shade Kathryn's way. Surprisingly, not only are Landon Clements and Thomas now friends (it's purely platonic, as Landon says in the premiere), but they also had a shocking conversation about Kathryn. Landon went as far to say that Kathryn is "not of sound mind." Then, she and Thomas said Kathyn needs electric shock treatment. It got even worse when Thomas mentioned he should get out the jumper cables.

As you can imagine, Kathryn couldn't believe her eyes and ears about that. She says,

Those are strong words and that is not a joke to me. At that point, I had no clue Thomas was really even talking to his friends so negatively about me to the point where he thinks I need shock treatment or thinks it's funny to say that ... I don't understand anyone that would ever say that about anyone. I think it's disturbing, morbid, and odd.

If you haven't picked up on it, there is a common theme surrounding Kathryn's time on Southern Charm and that is double standards. When it comes to Kathryn and Thomas, there's no arguing that her actions are scrutinized by the cast and fans much more heavily than his. It's something that the 24-year-old reality star has definitely noticed. She explains,

There's an absolute double standard. People definitely excuse men or whatever they do, but if you're a woman, I mean, you're crucified basically for anything. The thing is, every single girl that criticizes me has probably done the same or worse. They just don't have it out there. I'm just an honest person and I'm truthful about what I do, because it happened [and] I learn from it.

Even though times are changing for women, gender inequality still exists and, unlike men, women are still expected to act a certain way. "Double standards exist and I think it always will exist," Kathryn says. "It's just a matter of whether or not you adhere to it or not. Their [anyone who criticizes her] idea of what's normal or what's acceptable is not mine. I don't feel like their sexual life is my business."

So, what does she have to say for anyone who feels the need to judge her? "If they have a problem, apparently I don't know about it, because I don't really read it and I'm not that concerned." She continues, "I don't have time to troll. If they have a problem, it's just theirs, because I don't know about it."

There you have it, Kathryn will continue to do her thing whether you like it or not.

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