7 Reasons To Bring A Vibrator Into The Bedroom

One great thing about sex is that it really, actually can always be better. That doesn’t mean that the sex you’re having right now isn’t awesome — it totally could be. All it means is that sex has the magic power of exponential improvement and even when you’re having the best sex of your life, it could still be different and better in some way you haven’t even thought of yet. So with that in mind, raise your hand if you don’t want a better sex life. Oh, no one? Everyone wants to be having exponentially better sex? Awesome! Now let’s talk about how vibrators can improve your sex life.

Plenty of us are already familiar with vibrators for solo play, but they can be a fun way to spice things up in partnered sex as well. Some women — especially those who sleep with men — are nervous about introducing vibrators into the bedroom, thinking that their partner will be weirded out or intimidated. To them I have two things to say: 1. Your orgasms are worth it and, 2. a recent study found that dudes are not only totally cool with vibrators use, but are actually pretty into them being a part of sex. So it’s time to stop being scared and get your favorite buzzing bestie in the bedroom!

Still need a little convincing? Here are seven very compelling reasons to introduce a vibrator to couple play.

1. Stronger Orgasms

Or should I say: Stronger orgasms like whoa. Even if you have no problem coming, a vibrator can totally change the way you come. That kind of direct clitoral stimulation could be just what your body needed to have seriously intense orgasms or even multiple orgasms.

2. …Or Orgasms At All

And speaking of direct clitoral stimulation, one in three women can’t come without it — so do you, boo. A vibrator is a great addition to positions (like doggy style) where your clit isn’t getting rubbed already by your partner’s body. They’re also awesome for women who have a hard time orgasming during partnered sex in any position.

3. Spice Things Up

There are so many things you can do with a vibrator that you can’t do with your body alone. You can buzz any part of your body, insert some of them, play with your partner in new ways… The possibilities are only as limited as your imagination, so get fantasizing! Vibrators can be an awesome way for couples who are looking to add a little spice back into their sex life to get things going again.

4. Fun Dom/Sub Play

BDSM isn’t just about whips and chains, kids. Let your partner use the vibrator on you to bring up this close to orgasming, only to take it away right before you come. Do that over and over again until you’re begging for an orgasm for some super fun dominant/submissive play.

5. Exhibitionism Is Hot

Make your partner look, but not touch, and give them a private show. It's guaranteed to turn you bothon.

6. You Can Use It On Your Partner

Vibrators are fun to use on another person, whether your partner is male or female-bodied. Watch their arousal build and build as you use the vibrator on them — and then have crazy, awesome sex.

7. Why Not?

Really, why not? What do you have to lose?

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