I've never met anyone who doesn't like to kiss, but I have met people whose kisses are not my style. We all kiss a little differently, and some are more compatible together than others. So what does your kissing style say about you? Does it mean that you love to be kissed a certain way but your partner likes some other type of kisses? Do you know what different kisses mean?
Though I believe that differing kiss techniques can be a dealbreaker, I also think that there is meaning beneath each style of kiss, and the way you kiss speaks volumes. I've gone on dates with people who seem timid but prove to be passionate lovers — and I've gone out with guys who are totally cocky but seriously couldn't kiss their way out of a wet paper bag.
One thing is for sure: No two people kiss exactly alike. This is a good thing — variety is the spice of life and all that — but what does it mean? We live in a society that inflects import into everything, for better or worse.
And so, here are 10 different modes of kissing, from passive to aggressive and everything in between — and what each means about you, you, you.
1. Eyes Closed
You want to lose yourself in the moment and feel everything. In your day to day, you're a dreamer, frequently caught mid-daydream. You also have vivid night dreams, and when you remember them you like to jot them down. You find life to be lovely, but a bit of roller coaster, and you've been known to let your emotions get the best of you. You're sensitive, subjective and suggestible and you fall in love hard — and no one would ever fault you for it, because you're so earnest about it all.
2. Eyes Open
Though it may defy the norm, you like to keep your eyes open while you kiss. You're incredibly curious and inquisitive, and you're known for your astute observations and unique takes on any given situation. For you, knowledge is power. You're less inclined to put much stock in the metaphysical, preferring science to Shambhala and math to myth.
3. Open Mouthed
You're a French kisser — in romance and in life. You're known for taking projects by the horns and taking charge, and you don't believe in unsolvable problems. Though you're not a total Pollyanna, you know what deserves moroseness and what can be waved away with a few simple solutions, and you're not one to wallow. Even in the worst of times, you wake up, take a shower, don your favorite shirt or swipe on some lipstick and tackle the day.
4. Closed-Mouthed
Long kisses with your mouth pressed against your partner's are your favorite. Though you've had your share of open-mouthed kisses, you find them inferior to their drier cousins, though you find them to be anything but plain. You're a traditionalist who prefers made-from-scratch to store-bought, daytime to nighttime and the book to the movie. Though you may be closed-mouthed, you're anything but closed-minded: You just like things the way you like them, and there's nothing wrong with that.
5. Passionate
You've been known to get completely lost in a make-out session. When you're kissing someone, you're fully present and ready for anything. That's exactly the way you respond to life too: Whether you're cleaning the kitchen or giving a major presentation, you're in your body and in the moment, giving yourself completely to whatever the experience may be. You can't suffer fools, which especially include those who are absent-minded or phoning it in.
6. Intimate
You like lots of lingering eye contact between kisses, and kissing in the rain is your idea of the best day ever. You're intense in general, and take everything you do very seriously. As you like to look in the eyes of your lover, so too do you prefer to face difficulties and challenges head-on — the better to take it all in and know exactly what you're facing.
7. Wild
Licking, lip-biting, light slapping, tribal screams: As far as you're concerned, everything goes with a kiss. Nothing is off limits for you in general, and if someone tells you that you can't do something, you'll do it anyway — twice. That said, you're not used to being told no, but when you hear that particularly unseemly word, you're great at turning it around and getting the yes to which you're accustomed.
8. Sexy
For you, kissing isn't just kissing — it's a chance to show off your sexuality. You take out the big guns when you kiss, making every touch a full-body caress. That's just how you are: In life, you do everything all the way — or not at all. When you choose to focus your energy on something, it's going to happen. Case closed.
9. Passive
Don't get it twisted: You like to be kissed, and not the other way around. But this doesn't necessarily mean that is the way you are in life. In fact, women (and men) who like submission in the bedroom are often real go-getters in daytime hours. When nighttime (or kiss time, whenever that may be) comes around, you want to kick back, relax and be shown who's boss. During business hours, you go hard.
10. Aggressive
Maybe you love to hold your partner down while you kiss them. Or you like them to tell you who's in charge as you go from kiss to kiss. Whatever the case may be, there's no mistaking that you like to be active when you're kissing your partner. The same goes for life, though it may not be as obvious. You're polite, easygoing and kind — but you're also straightforward, and you shoot from the hip.
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