There is a definite difference between those of us who are grown-ass and those of us who are not. For example, a grown-ass woman commands a room every time she walks into it. The same goes for grown-ass men: They’ve either slid right into maturity and responsibility like sliding into home plate, with equal fanfare, or they have not. It’s that latter group you need to look out for when it comes to having a mature relationship and a fulfilling sex life.
While the perpetual man-child has his charm, like how he still rides his skateboard to work and still thinks taking photos of how many empty PBR cans are in his recycling bin every Sunday morning, he's still lacking in some ways. Basically, he doesn't have much of a desire to grow the eff up and when it comes to goals and ambitions that extend past drinking and getting laid this upcoming weekend, there’s just nothing there. If he doesn't want to make something of himself outside the bedroom, honestly, what can you expect when you’re inside the bedroom? Probably not more than 50 percent effort to be honest; that’s why you need a grown-ass man if you really want a satisfying sexual experience. Having been with both, the grown-ass man is always, hands down, the winner when it comes to sex.
Here’s how sex with a man-child and sex with grown-ass man differ.
1. When It Comes To Foreplay
Grown-Ass Man: He totally takes his time. He knows that the longer he draws out the foreplay, the more excited you’ll be and the better sex will be. He knows that although quickies can be hot, when it comes to ultimate satisfaction for his partner, it’s all about how slow and steady wins the race.
Man-Child: To the man-child, foreplay usually means going from kissing to second base, then third base, and all in under 10 minutes. It’s not that he’s not invested in drawing out foreplay as a diss to you, but that he just can’t really control his excitement. Which, as I said, has its charms.
2. When It Comes To You Having An Orgasm
Grown-Ass Man: He’s going to do everything that he has to in order to make sure you're having a good time in bed. He’s going to listen to direction, he’s going to ask questions, he’s going to communicate with you as to exactly just how you like it, and if it takes all night, then he’ll be there all night.
Man-Child: Although every man, even the man-child, likes to make their partner come, he does it for a different reason than the grown-ass man. For the man-child, he wants to be able to pat himself on the back for having made you come as opposed to giving you the pleasure you rightly deserve.
3. When It Comes To Receiving Oral Sex
Grown-Ass Man: A grown-ass man respects the fact that maybe you’re not in the mood to give oral sex or that it’s just not your thing. He’s not pushy about it, he doesn’t try to guilt you into, but just accepts it.
Man-Child: The man-child, on the other hand, is likely to put up a bit of a stink if you don’t go down on him. While I’d like to believe he wouldn’t sink to the level of gently pushing your head toward his crotch as a way of letting you know that he wants a blow job, he will definitely be a bit mopey if you express your lack of interest.
4. When It Comes To Giving Oral Sex
Grown-Ass Man: He knows that it’s not about stabbing at your vagina with his tongue, but a refined licking, kissing, and sucking that's focused on the clitoral area ― because he actually knows where your clit is. Again, he communicates with you about what you want and how you like it, because that’s just how grown-ass men roll.
Man-Child: The man-child goes into cunnilingus pretty much like a bat out of hell. He tends to be overly eager and doesn’t have the control or the direction that a grown-ass man has. He wants to do a good job and have you enjoy it, but he’s yet to really get the technique down. He will; eventually, but how long do you want to wait around for him?
5. When It Comes To Experimenting
Grown-Ass Man: He’s all about it. He wants to try new things, because that’s how you keep a sex life happy and healthy. And when you share with him your kinks, he doesn’t judge you for it, but instead welcomes your fantasies and is interested in trying them out.
Man-Child: For the man-child, kinky involves a spank or two and maybe a pair of handcuffs. It’s not that he’s against experimenting, but that he’s not sure how to get the conversation started and if you’re the one who starts it, he’s not really sure how to respond.
6. When It Comes To Actual Intercourse
Grown-Ass Man: He’s all about incorporating everything during intercourse. For him, it’s not just about his penis in your vagina, but paying attention to your clit, your breasts, and all your other sensitive sweet spots. He also knows that although sex is referred to as “banging,” there isn’t really any banging to be had.
Man-Child: Tragically, the man-child doesn’t multitask so well, so when he’s in you, that’s all he’s focused on. While he’d love to be more into involving other parts of your body, he’s just not to that level yet. For him, once he’s in, his aim is to orgasm and worry about the rest of it later.
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